Introduction
I am just a dot in this vast Universe of life, sharing a few intimate details of what life has thrown at me. I am not a physician, nor am I clergy, nor do I believe there are any ultimate rules in life for me or you. What has helped me in my life journey is no guarantee for truth. I am a visionary for my own life experience. I believe truth is different for everyone and only you can decide what it is for you. I make no claim what so ever that any experience or information that you may impart from any words that I write will or will not expand your life experience. I do trust you for making your own decisions and I believe your life exists for you because of your decisions. Other individuals have lived life experiences before me and others will live life experiences after me. If my choices in my life experience can in any way help you to realize your potential for a healthy, loving, fulfilled life experience, be my guest to share in my experiences.
PART 1
Have you ever wondered why some of us have experienced those two minute wonders in EFT, and other times spent hours and hours uncovering all the aspects to the dilemma we are addressing? Ever gave it some thought regarding why some of those two minute wonders just stick and that's that and then some only stick for a short time? I have looked at these questions from several angles. I came to EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) because I had been diagnosed with MCS ( multiple chemical sensitivity). I had exhausted the traditional medical and alternative routes and had spent nearly $20,000 out of pocket. I was either going to get better or call on digger O'Dell and CROAK.. I was so discouraged the croaking route was most appealing but I feared more that I would live a miserable existence.
I applaud Gary Craig and others who have taken this journey and made available information about Energy Healing medicines. I applaud those energy medicine practitioners who have spend hours learning energy medicine techniques and sharing them with others. For if it had not been for them, I would be one miserable human being. [Here is a plug for: the Genie in your Genes by Dawson Church, Ph.D. You can get it on Amazon.Com]
I scraped together the money to attend a level one work shop in Oct of 2006. And by scraped together I mean I only had enough money for the first day. The first day of the workshop I was having such an allergic reaction to the cleaning supplies and chemicals used at the location, my skin was flying off my body a mile a minute.. I had so much fear in eating the food that was available for lunch that I literally had a melt down.
I brought my syllabus home and started my adventure with energy medicine. It was my last hope..
During the next year I experienced tapping many symptoms away:
Vision problems, high blood pressure, a dozen or so food allergies, reactions to jet fuel, diesel and gas fumes, perfumes, detergents, dust mites, fabric starches and chemicals, insecticides , herbicides, air pollution, dizziness, rapid heart beat, tooth decay, food cravings, dyslexia, short term memory loss, panic attacks, night mares, and social fears. I regained 80% of my hearing loss. I healed my relationship in a 33 year marriage. I helped my husband lower his blood pressure and get off his BP medication, stop smoking ( HE STOPPED SMOKING OCT 21, 2006), remove food and toxin allergies and reactions. He regained control of his alcohol consumption and reduced it by 80%. We both have had incredible healing in all our relationships with children and grandchildren. EFT was instrumental in removing superstitions and belief systems that kept us stuck in a world of prisons.
Several of these symptoms were indeed 2 minute miracle cures. Others took days, weeks or even months. I could go on for many pages of the wonderful healing's and improvements in our lives. But this writing is not about that.
It is about what I learned about those 2 minute miracle cures verses the ones that took months and months to abate.
We all, or most of us, know about The Law Of Attraction. Considering L. O. A. in regards to dollars and cents was low on the list of my priorities. Number one priority was health. So the number one question was:
What in me is attracting all these health issues?
Why was the Universe mirroring back to me such horror? It took months for me to even dig myself out of the hell-hole enough to ask that question. I was pretty sure all my problems were because of some one else. The planet wreckers who are responsible for the chemicals and pollution, etc. I could write a book on this and probably have....so I won't go there.......speaking of this, memorize this statement "I am not going there!" It will save you countless hours of grief, anger, and sorrow to just simply recognize that certain subjects only hurt you and make you feel bad if 'you go there' in your mind and dwell on them.
Important things to remember, if you want a life which is Whole and you want Wellness.
1) whatever is happening to you today was put into place from you or someone else's yesterdays! Something you were taught, even before you realize you could think.. From our parents, teachers, brothers, sisters, family members, neighbors, friends, pastors, any significant person.. We accept information that by repetition we catalog into our brains. These thoughts get hard wired in and become our beliefs. Usually they are hidden enough that we refer to them as in our sub-conscious.
Most of these cataloged beliefs are responsible for what is.
I know you are saying, "but my beliefs are not responsible for the injustices in the world and my environment. So many 'bad' things have been going on for...forever, how can those be my fault?"
Consider collective bad thoughts in society. Like a run away train we jumped on..when we weren't really thinking.
2) nothing going on is about fault.
The science of Quantum physics exists because scientist had eyes to see that belief systems made a difference in the results of scientific experiments. They had the courage to bring science and theology together to seek an explanation of why... what is!
We have such a complex thinking protocol for thoughts to actually become a belief. In our everyday lives we make decision after decision not really understanding the thoughts that have come before are our reasons for conclusions. We have built one thought upon another, upon another, upon another. And all of them have come from another source outside ourselves.............until one day you make a deliberate decision....... to compile new information into YOUR belief system, this one, of your choosing.
In order to do this you must un-wire or re-wire previous thought patterns that are what came before to make up what is currently happening to you now. For a detailed explanation of how the brain does this, order the extended version of What the BLEEP do we know! Down the Rabbit hole! At http://WWW.whatthebleep.Com/ and really study it!.....Because nothing currently going on in your life is about FAULT, but it is about THOUGHT.
3) build a DESIRE to find out who you really are. AND I MEAN WHO YOU REALLY ARE! (not the compiled sick, phobic, no hope person of what is you see in the mirror. That isn't the real you. That is just the seed of the person you were always meant to be. A promise that if you ask the question Who am I really? And build the desire to know, you not only will see yourself differently, but you will become who you were always meant to be.
Once you are moving in that direction The Law of Attraction will accommodate you and supply the information you seek. Others will mirror info to you, you'll find a great book that enlightens you, you'll watch a DVD, or attend a workshop, have a 2 minute miracle EFT session, and so on.
PART 2
The Law of Attraction works like a magnet of energy. Energy that you can't see with your physical eyes, until something opens your spiritual eyes, .a vibration so to speak of what is. All emotion has an energy to it. Feelings attached to love, joy , peace, enthusiasm, gratefulness, etc...........sorrow, fear, depression, hate, envy, etc always have a vibration to them. It either makes you feel good or it makes you feel bad.
The good feeling emotions will always lead you down a road that will bring desired results.
The bad feeling emotions will always lead you down a road that will bring you the results that you do not want. The results of ill health and discord.
E.F.T.
Emotional Freedom Technique http://WWW.emofree.Com/default.htm
EFT is a tool, a Quantum leap tool!
A quantum leap is this faster than the speed of light emotional transition. A transition from what you don't want to what you do want....a two minute miracle cure!...............or at the very least, an emotional release from the emotions that make you feel bad ...............to the emotions that give you relief and hope, emotions that always make you feel good/better.
So how does EFT and The Law of Attraction compliment each other? Good question!
First let's look at accommodation.
Accommodation is a very important word and it is a fact of life like the Law of Attraction. It is essential for the Law of attraction to be complete. Remember I spoke about FAULT or better yet, I spoke about the absence of FAULT.
In the Law of attraction we bring to ourselves, at the core level, what we believe and think about. in energy terminology we would say 'our vibration'. Everything in the Universe has a vibration to it. Matter is never really holding still. If you look at any matter close enough you will see it is energy in motion and has a vibration. Our thoughts that have emotion attached to them have an energy, they have a vibration. It is this vibration that is the crux of The Law of Attraction. In the simplest form scientifically (Quantum Physics) a vibration (energy) attracts the same vibration unto itself. So the Law of Attraction doesn't care if you are a good person or a bad person. The Law of attraction does not judge you, ever! It simply mirrors back to you what you are vibrating. So when you think 'How could this happen to me?' it has happened because some where along the road of life you became a vibration and the Universe brought the circumstances of life to you that ARE THE MATCH.
No man is an island!
We have other individuals in our life constantly. Some are permanent fixtures. Semi-permanent, temporary, or a fleeting moment ....like a soul mate/spouse/ child/bro/sis/ neighbor/ boss/ employee/car wreck recipient/grocery clerk/ etc. As an individual we are very complicated. We have a multiplicity of emotions, there for, a multiplicity of vibrations available in us. Today I can be in one vibration of hope and trust and tomorrow angry and depressed. Heck most of us can be in a different vibration from one hour/minute to the next. The average person can only hold his attention span for 6 to 7 minutes per hour. There are a multiplicity of vibrational/emotional/energies in each of us.. On a deeper level, a level of constant vibrations that come from our hard wired belief systems and superstitions is the actual place that summons what the Law of Attraction brings to us.
Do you want to know where you are at on an emotional level. Look around at your life and determined if you are living the life you really want or if you have moved into a default mode, out of control, no hope, wondering what has happened
It is not about fault but default. It is all about vibration, YOURS. Now lets take a look at accommodation. It is so very easy to focus on others and circumstances when determining why certain things are happening in your life. Those things are in your face so to speak. If you would look at those in your face things from a simpler point of view, you will be on your way to eliminating those things you don't want.
Nothing is off limits or beyond your control. Everything is just a vibrational match away. It just needs to be broken down so you can really see what is. (the real truth behind reality) and here is the real truth.............Everything in your life, you are attracting to yourself. Everything without exception.
The number one hang up with this statement is that if you choose to believe it, you take responsibility for everything, you own it. Once you understand this information with eagerness, with a hopefulness to create a better life for your self, you will be moving towards the release of the realities of the things you do not want in your life, and launch rockets of desires for the things you do want. And make no mistake, you will reach that place where you are a vibrational match to what you do want. You do the choosing. You move out of the default mode and choose to deliberately create the life you want. No matter what you decide right now......the Law of attraction will always be in play. Your life will either be a match to what you want or don't want.
I know it is hard to wrap your mind around these possibilities. But consider for a moment that your life is in motion. There is never a standing still place, no eternal arrival point, no perfect oasis that once you have arrived then you'll be perfect. This concept does not exist. The Universe is ever expanding every moment to keep accommodating the desires you and every other human being on this planet have launched. We are ever expanding also. Consider this, if you can't imagine your life moving in a direction that gives you your heart felt desires, you may be in a rut of default thinking. A rut compiled of beliefs that may not really be your own. Thoughts and beliefs compiled from others that passed on to you their thoughts, passed on to them from their 'other people’ thoughts and belief systems.
Decide today that you want to know who your really are. Be prepared that there may be things about your self you do not like, possibly can't even stand. Decide that you can take the 'truth', knowing that whatever you come face to face with...you can change, if you don't like it.. You have one of the most powerful tools in existence right now. EFT!. Tapping! Make it a priority to use this tool. This tool can quantum leap you into your desires, deliver you from your fears and phobias., discard those emotions that bring the undesired results in your life and open the door for your intuition to teach you about yourself. You can become the person you were meant to be. The person who through conflict and outside stimuli may have become derailed, in default. There is no other just like you, but you share beliefs with others that you may have chosen, or have chosen you, by default. Choose to live outside the box. Choose to deliberately create your own life, and the Law of Attraction will accommodate you. It will bring things together for you as you lineup your vibration with the desires of your heart. All you need is just an attitude adjustment. A little information that explains it all.
PART 3
EFT can be a two minute miracle cure, or it can be a process of knocking down obstacles (different aspects) until you reach the desired results. I personally have spent months on one problem and also helped someone stop a smoking addiction of 40 years in less than an hour of collective tapping.. Is there a formula to determine how easy it will be for you to be delivered from your illnesses, addictions, financial woes, relationship problems. No, but there is an action you can take to make it happen. It is all up to you and how willing you are to accept responsibility for your own life. To live your life from a conscious thought process. Everything you need is at your own finger tips. No matter how perfect or screwed up you think you are. No matter what your current circumstances. No matter how beyond hope you feel. No matter what your physical symptoms. You simply start with the these first steps:
Learn what you can about EFT Http://WWW.emofree.Com/default.htm down load the free information manual. Find a workshop and attend. And start tapping away.
You only need one EFT phrase to start and open the flood gate. Fortunately for you, it'll come as one tapping session at a time. The nest of garbled, tangled emotional problems will start to unravel. And you will become clear headed and start to know who you are.
This is the beginning session:
Even though I have this problem______________(You name it), I deeply love and accept myself.
And even though I do not know the cause, I deeply love and accept myself and I ask my intuition to reveal to me what tapping sessions I need to solve this problem.
[Do this at the SH...side of the hand/karate chop point......repeat as often as you choose, some like to do it 3 times. You will get comfortable with what is good for you. You can elaborate and define YOUR problem with as much scrutiny as you choose. The more of the feeling place you are in with your problem the better connected you are to release it.]
Allow your intuition to do its job. Trust that part of you to know everything about you and believe it will accurately give you information that will help you move forward to become the person you were always meant to be. Practice listening to that inner voice. Let your dreams speak to you. Ask what was that? what's this about? How does this thought help me? For when you ask, you'll get the answers. It may seem foreign at first, but you'll get better with practice. And remember you don't have to know the whole picture to do a tapping session. Sometimes just a word or feeling is enough to do a set up phrase and while you are tapping new thoughts will come up and before you know it things become clear and you release an emotion that you never really knew you had. And then you are one step closer to clearing your old slate of beliefs, so you can deliberately create the life you want.
When I took my first EFT workshop, I didn't even know what I was attending. I was in horrible shape physically and emotionally from my MCS . I signed up and attended because my nutritionalist told me it was my only hope for any kind of recovery. I kept telling myself that if I could just understand the basics I would know how to do my own tapping sessions. I felt like that was my only chance. I was beyond broke financially and only had a little hope.
If I can become successful in removing my own physical symptoms and help others achieve a better state of health and peace of mind, then anyone can. I actually think this is our calling. Our birth right as a human being is to live in health, to heal ourselves and to rely on ourselves for Wholeness and Wellness. We think we can't do things on our own. That we need the professional. It is time to take our lives back. I am not saying we don't need others to help us. We all need each other. We have fantastic opportunities to co-create together. Obviously if I didn't need anyone else I would still be plagued with symptoms. But at some point we need to take charge of our own lives. And stand on our own two feet. .Believe that we can trust ourselves and believe the system ( energy ) works.
I spent nearly $20,000 out of pocket for tests, medications, and therapies. I saw 8 different doctors and with every doctor and dollar spent I kept getting worse. My life was a nightmare for 6 years. I was house bound for over a year. I had to do my shopping on line. Sitting at my computer even made my skin break out in a red burn like rash....until I did a tapping session on the printers ink in my printer.
I laugh when I think about how that 'revelation' came about. I had these blister burns on my skin for a long time and one day my 26 year old son rushed into my house to tell me he thought he knew what was causing the rash. Printers Ink he said. I looked at him and said really? He was convinced because of some research he had done on the Internet. I replied I would check it out, and I thought he could be on to something because I knew at times I could be on my computer for long periods and nothing bad would happen to my skin. But other times I couldn't spend any time there because of the painful rash I would get. But I had not been able to make a connection. I couldn't figure out what was the common denominator. Seriously, it just never occurred to me that products and things in my environment could make me sick. Some how I thought I lived in America and that some invisible watch dog was keeping me protected. That a product couldn't make me sick.Weren’t there suppose to be regulations in place to keep me safe?........( I wonder if that is a belief system?, something that might keep me stuck with health issues? Ask those questions?)
My son needed to print out a paper he was researching and as I stood over his shoulder and the printer started to print, my painful rashy feeling started up my back. Within 10 minutes before our very eyes a bad rash had appeared. Now some of you might think that spooky but it was real. I had experienced it many many times before with jet fuel, gas fumes, fragrances from cleaning products etc. But I had to become an expert ( allow my intuition to reveal to me ) to follow the trail on what actually was causing the symptoms.
My son was so elated that we had found a cause he was ready to tear my printer out of the wall and throw it to the street. No wonder after the hell my family had gone through in watching my torture. Over 60% of my skin was as if some one had skinned me alive. The pain was unbearable at times and mostly never stopped. I had fevers every three weeks or so that knocked me out for 24 hours. I referred to them as having a burn out, My doctor said "hmm you must have critters." Critters? I thought, well lets get them the hell outta here.
My heart rate never ran below 104 beats a minute in a resting state. During physical activity it pounded out of control. The day I realized the heart rate connection and insecticide exposure was the beginning off a new life.
I was told it was perfectly safe to use this insecticide product in my home!!! Then when I found out that my city had started fluoridating my tap water, using the same ingredient that was in the insecticide, I just couldn't believe it.
I am sure I do not have to expound on how many tapping sessions that it took to release all that anger. I didn't recover for some time....not until I had the courage to ask that very important question; What is it about me that has attracted this illness to me? This is when I started to get better. When I realized that those products were actually attracted to me, accommodating the vibration I was in, I began to recover. The metaphor that I had for myself was that I was no better than a rotting piece of fruit. I could not even imagine my life with clear whole skin. I had no vision of getting better. So of course here was the tapping session:
Even though I have no vision that I will ever get better, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself and I choose for my intuition to reveal to me my feelings/vibration that keep me receiving this hell.
Even though there is only a small part of me that even thinks I can get better, I ask that part to start growing and to help with my vision of wholeness and wellness. I choose wholeness and wellness. I choose a full recovery. I choose patience, I choose clear thinking. I choose life.
PART 4
The world is an unsafe place to live!
Is that your mantra?
It is the mantra of almost every one I know on some level. They are afraid of getting cancer; their children being kidnapped; going broke; being homeless; being a victim; terrorist attacks; failure; not being pretty enough; thin enough; etc.
Have you ever considered that these feelings/emotions have a vibrational energy attached to them.
No wonder our society is in turmoil We don't know what is happening to us. Did God cause that? Did God protect me from that? Why me and not that person? Why that person and not me? We put labels on everything. There are religious organizations on every corner. We disagree with each other and put labels on any one different than us.
I remember the first time I heard about a Church being hit by a tornado. God's people? How could that even happen? Trying to answer that question I came up with a million opinions, none of which made me feel good or think without judgement.
A benefit in asking these questions was that I had found a meter, a way to understand what vibration I had in my belief systems. It made it simple. Do your thoughts make you feel good when you think them? Or do you feel bad when you think them? What a fantastic revelation! The law of Attraction is awesome! I don't have to worry about anyone else because the Law of Attraction has all the bases covered. And if I actually think ill of someone else and their belief system, I am applying an emotion to my action. A vibration that will bring to ME what I do not want. Now is that crazy or what?
It is all becoming clear to me. I couldn't understand why I was such a good person who lived the good book and actually had addicted crazy people in my life making me miserable. How could that be? I was such a good person. I didn't understand............................................
.............Until I started to understand accommodation. The people in your life are attracted to you because of your vibration. Things you see in others that you do not like will ring a bell of truth about yourself. When you have eyes to see and ears to hear it'll start becoming clear. Not until you start asking the hard question....what vibration in me is attracting -such-n-such will the answer come.. No matter what it is. Sickness, poverty, mental confusion, loneliness, what ever it is. Hold on to your hat, the answer will probably not be anything that you ever considered or expected..
Some times our opinions just get in the way. A rule of thumb would be to not over think diagnoses with your self or client. But a starting point is to trust the energy movement in releasing negative emotion and you will be all right. You'll get to where you want to go. Trust yourself.
When I am preparing my self for a session, I always let the client tell me what the problem is. If you listen closely they will define it. Whether it is their intuition giving the clue or something else, they will tell you what their tapping session is. Learn to ask the right questions about their feelings and ask them if they were to guess why things are happening to them ,what might it be?
If you have not...it is because you didn't ask. I always do a tapping session on myself before I meet with a client. I deliberately intend how I want each session to go. I don't allow myself to have preconceived ideas about the session. I clear my mind and intend the outcome of the session.
An example:
A client, I will call her Sharon, came to me experiencing eye problems. When she was under stress her eye lids would try to close. In trying to keep them open, she would appear as if she had an eye twitch. Knowing that most eye problems from the emotional point of view suggest that the client does not want to see something going on in their life. We also know that most core reasons come perceived trauma during our child hood. When I asked Sharon to think back to her childhood and share with me any experiences she may have had that she would think could relate to why her eyes were trying to close. She explained that she was an only child and that her parents came from a very strict family background.
They believed children should be seen and not heard. None of her parents friends had children so they insisted she be the perfect little girl. A shinning example of their beliefs. Now as an adult she had more than a few problems and just couldn't stand the feeling she wasn't perfect. She felt like she never really got a break and had to be perfect and take care of everyone else. When was it going to be her turn. She was tired of her life...............................she gave me every clue I needed for her session.
This is usually the case. Your client will tell you what the session should start with. Then as you collapse the different issues you are well on your way towards the desired results.
I first started to learn about accommodation when I needed to understand the part other people played in whatever current situation I needed to address.
I thought I needed to start tapping on my husband. I looked up all my symptoms in Louse Hay's book and to my surprise they ALL pointed in the direction of FEAR OF BEING REJECTED. I had no problem believing this because every person in my life had rejected me at some point. Some rejected me fully and weren't even in my life anymore. Leaving nothing but scars and more fear of rejection. This revelation came to me when I was feeling really rejected at the idea that fear of rejection was my problem. It was four days after my one day EFT level one workshop. I was feeling somewhat optimistic since I had experimented on my 40 year smoking habit husband. I talked him into a 5 minute craving session. He was on his way outside with cigarette in hand when I did a hostage take over and insisted he let me do a practice session on him. I could tell by his expression that he was annoyed at being waylaid from his smoking porch experience.
I explained I was not trying to make him stop smoking, but since I was taught how to do a tapping session to help get rid of cravings, and that I was told to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE, I needed his help.
He sat down and I asked him the first important question: How bad do you want to smoke that cigarette on a 0 to 10 scale, 10 being you need to smoke it right now and 0 being you do not need it at all.
He looked at me with eyes that said you better watch out because I could explode, answering a 9.
I could immediately see that I couldn't fool around with this. Five minutes would be all that I could get out of him in his present state of mind.
I gave a quick explanation of the EFT points and said just follow the leader and repeat after me.
I started with the traditional craving session of:
Even though I really want to smoke this cigarette I deeply love and accept myself. 3 times at the SH karate chop point
Then at each face point I said. (although I could tell he wasn't buying into this at all).
And he repeated:
I really want to smoke this cigarette
I have to have this cigarette right now
No way can I live with out this cigarette
Yes I can
No I can't
I have to have it
No I don't
Then when I got to the gamut I said:
Even though I have this fear that I will have to smoke this cigarette I chose to release the desire.
Then I went to the top of the head and said;
I love and accept myself
He was at a 4 at this time. We did two rounds on the body and then went to the gamut.
I have a couple of minutes into this so far.
Then I started another round of:
Even though a part of me still wants this cigarette I love and accept myself and I choose for my body to release this desire to smoke this cigarette, 3 times
The face points I did like before and the same with the gamut.
I knew I was pushing my luck, but when I asked him how much he wanted a cigarette to his surprise and mine....he said a zero.
I told him I was not expecting him to not smoke that cigarette, If he did it was his choice and I would not judge him about it. I simply wanted to practice a craving session. But If he was ever serious about stopping, he got a first hand experience on how to stop a craving.
He did finally smoke that cigarette....5 hours later. But eventually stopped cold turkey 3 weeks after that. He hasn't smoked for one year. A 40 year habit. He started smoking when he was 9 years old. In our 33 year relationship he tried once or twice each year with no significant results. Even when he succeeded in not smoking for a few days or weeks, the cravings never went away. He tells me and every one that EFT helped him, not only to stop smoking, but put him in a state that he felt as if he had never been a smoker.
Now you may think, wow what a great story. But let me reiterate. It was Sunday, the day after a one day workshop. I had only had a one day session with a master. I didn't know how to really tap and I had a major melt down during that one day class. So you must believe me, if EFT is so powerful that it can work on a couple of bumbling nut cases....it will work for anyone.
I see that I have digressed form my story about rejection.
It is now 4 days after my level 1 Workshop. My entire motivation concerning learning to tap was to get over my MCS symptoms, especially the rash on my skin.
Hay's book is suggesting I have a major case of FEAR OF REJECTION!
So my reasoning is this: my husband needs to do these sessions with me because I think I fear he is going to reject me. So I asked him if he would be willing to do tapping sessions with me. To my surprise he flat out refused me. He said he was all glad and all that I have found this tapping whatever thing but it was my thing and not his and I really needed to figure it all out on my own.
I was crushed and pissed off. I was so at the boiling point I couldn't even look at him. We went to bed, me madder than hell AND REJECTED YET AGAIN.
Now don't forget, I had still been asking my intuition to reveal to me. what's the solution to my MCS?
I awoke around 3 am and since I was wide awake, I slipped out of bed and sat at my desk thinking I would write out some set up phrases for my next series of tapping sessions.
I took out a piece of paper, put my name at the top as if there were going to be other names for other lists. I laughed at myself. I began to write:
Even though I feel so rejected by my husband right now. I choose to love and accept myself.
Even though it feels like I have nobody, I choose to love and accept myself.
If my husband could love me enough, I wouldn't be afraid of being rejected.
Now the big realization hit me... How could I ever get over my fear of rejection if my husband was going to keep doing his bad behavior and keep rejecting me. I realized he was going to need some healing on his own. Now I have no idea if that was a good thought process or not, but I saw him as the problem and my job to fix it.....Remember it is just 4 days out of my one day class.
I took out a second piece of paper and wrote my husbands name on it. And started a list of set up phrases for him, just in case I could hijack him into a tapping session, after all he was my problem, or part of it, right ???!!!
I just wrote down what came to my mind while reviewing my own set up phrase. Then it hit me. How could my husband give something to me he didn't have. Realizing that you can't give something you don't have. I was dumb founded. How could we love each other and be there for each other when we couldn't even say or feel that we loved ourselves.
I used different examples that I had heard my husband say a million times through the years. The one liners he mentioned in remembering his child hood. I put those one liners into set up phrases. I will try and remember a few for example purposes but I no longer have the list.
Even though it feels like I raised myself because my parents worked all the time and I was a latch key kid
Even though I was not worth more than a hot dog for lunch
Even though I was lonely and felt like I needed to be brave, felt like I wasn't worth the time of day from my parents
Even though my sister was their favorite
I ended up with two pages of set up phrases.
If I ever used them or not, I felt like I got a peak into the tortured soul of my husband. My God, of course he couldn't do anything but reject me. He had felt rejected his whole life too. How could he give me love when he didn't and couldn't even love himself. I wept with love and understanding for him.
I went back to bed, trusting I could come up with a plan.
The next morning after my husband had his morning coffee I insisted he join me on the sofa. I asked him again if he would do a tapping session with me. He groaned and said he didn't want to. I told him I had written down a few things that I felt might be of benefit to him concerning his child hood. He looked at me like a cornered rat.
I started to read the set up phrases out loud. The first couple pissed him off and he started to get up. Then the next one got his attention. Then the next few made him to start to cry. He looked at me and said How could you know these things about me?
I told him he said them all the time to me. His broken heart had made known his worse fears. I told him we could release the pain from those childhood events. At this point he was in such pain I had to tap on him just to get enough relief so we could do the real work. I didn't know about tearless trauma techniques yet.
He sat down and because he was totally in the emotion of these set up phrases, and because I was just winging it ...I said lets make a movie out of those child hood feelings, knowing we had too many to handle them one by one. He gave the movie a name of some sort. Childhood pain or something. Then we tapped on:
Even though all these things happened to me and I was just a child, I choose to love and accept me
Even though I never felt worth loving. I now choose to give myself the love I need
We did all the face points by just using?saying....this movie
The entire session wasn't any longer than 10 or 15 minutes, but he was a changed man.
I could tell something profound had happened to him.
The next three days he would only look at me and say thank you honey.
I wasn't sure what was up because after all, who am I and what do I know. But I was getting the profound feeling that EFT was nothing short of miraculous. On the third day he sat me down and said he didn't know how to tell me this but he thought maybe he was somebody else.(Yikes!) He said after the session he was sort of dazed, but felt so much relief, and he knew for sure what he was feeling was a really good thing. But he had no way of identifying what had taken place.
We realize now that he had done a Quantum leap into a very serene place. Before he was cynical and very judgmental and now he was someone who had obtained a balance. He could see both sides of an issue instead of being one tracked in his thinking. He swore me to secrecy about what had happened to him. We had no experience with such things. A week later he said he wanted to stop smoking and we did a few rounds on his intuition revealing what he needed to know and within 3 weeks of his first craving session he stopped smoking.
I did feel like my intuition gave me an idea that would help in the transition. I felt he needed to see that he was in control of his smoking, not the cigarettes.
So we set up a schedule for smoking. He could have 5 cigarettes day...he chose the number. He had to smoke them at designated times. He chose them also. He had to smoke them at those times, no delaying or saving them for later. If the appointed time came he had to smoke or crush. I told him he could do this as long as he needed , whether it was for a week or a year. That his intuition would show him his next step.
Five days later he stopped cold turkey..
An now you know the rest of the story.
PART 5
Accommodations continued:
Couples, soul mates, actually any more than one soul connecting. to another on a personal basis applies. We are actually all connected to each other.
We somehow on a connection level have agreements with each other. We mirror back to each of those in our lives the things in each others vibration. It is a gift. Instead of judging others, we can choose to see what we need to heal in ourselves. What love The Law of attraction really is. We have such powerful tools if we only knew it. We can live outside our previous box of realities, a stash of concepts and beliefs that we more than likely never have understood what they really mean. We have kept attracting the same old beliefs that we hard wired into our subconscious, probably before we even knew how we really felt.
EFT is a quantum leap out of those old hard wired belief systems.
So have you figured out the difference between a 2 minute miracle cure and a long range conflict you need to resolve. One that may take many sessions? Do you see it?
Well the end result of completing a session that collapses an issue is determined by your vibration. If you haven't experienced the cure, you are just not in the vibrational match yet. Keep moving forward, letting yourself be guided by your intuition. Sometimes we think we have had a cure on something, only to find out we have more aspects to take a look at. So if that happens to you, just realize you have not yet made it into the vibration that is a match to your hearts desire. Be patient it will come. But know this, you are never done and you can't get this journey wrong. Because you are never done. The Universe keeps expanding and expanding to give you your rockets of desire. You have contrast in your life so you know which way to go and what to choose. That is the wonderful thing about life. If you could get it right and all done, you'd be finished. We are never finished, life is a process.
I didn't really understand what was happening to my husband and myself when we first got started with EFT. We had no predetermined beliefs about EFT or what it was. Gary Craig would say often: We are not sure how this works, we just see that it does and it releases one from their emotional prisons.
I know all the EFT cd's I bought and listened to were several years old upon my listening to them. So maybe more up to date information may reveal what the consensus is about what EFT really is.
To me it is a miracle.
It is an answer to prayer.
It is a means to travel from the state of what is, something that you put into place from all your yesterdays, by way of a Quantum leap, to the desires you have rocket launched.
The promise made by the Universe to expedite being a perfect vibrational match to what you are wanting when you get there.
There is no respecter of persons when it comes to The Law of Attraction.
The Law always mirrors back to you the vibrational match that you are living.
Do you want the life that you have dreamed of? Then never give up. Reach for the thoughts that always make you feel a little better than you feel when you are down.
EFT may be a 2 minute miracle cure or it may just be weeding out all the junk from decades of negative thinking, a way to clean the slate off, so you can deliberately create the life of your choosing.
I had no idea where I was going. I simply made the decision to trust my intuition and keep moving. To let go and go with the flow.
I do believe the symptoms that didn't let go easily were things I focused on too much. I had a tendency to look at my problems from every angle... This is why I think I didn't have as many of the miracle 2 minute cures as my husband.
He really is a fine example of just going with the flow. Not every one has their own built in EFT practitioner practicing on them..lol But we see how we accommodate each other. We don't blame each other. We let contrast help us choose what we really want in a relationship. The marital statistics out there aren't so good. But I have a few encouraging words to you married folks, and any others in a long range relationship.
If you loved each other once, you can always make it back there again, if you don't give up.
If you take those extra steps to see who you really are and who your mate is, you will keep your love alive. Listen closely when the other speaks.
You are together because you attracted each other.
Too often the things that attracted us to each other are the things we end up not liking about each other... Use those examples to enlighten yourselves and do tapping sessions.
When your mate is driving you crazy, stop and ask what in you is attracting this behavior.
Make a list of all the fantastic things you love and respect about each other, and that will be the vibration that brings you together.
Radiate love to one another on a daily basis.
Visualize your touch as healing for each other and give healing to each other when you touch.
Be kind and patient, especially if you both need time to heal
If your mate is sharp tongued or unkind, view it as a near future tapping session. When you both agree on a tapping session you have more power than you ever imagined. You can heal each other.
View your relationship as the accommodating, complimentary joining of two hearts that can move mountains.
You can have whatever you want. Plan it together so you both have the vision. It is easy to get on board with an idea if you were there at the inception.
Always be honest with love. EFT is the powerful tool that can insure the outcome of your hearts desire. There is only one reason it fails....you don't use it!
Use EFT to become the most loving and patient and giving person you can be. Remember it always starts with you.
PART 6
DO YOU HAVE A DANGER METER?
What is it?
Can you trust it? If yes, is it always dependable?
Do you find it suffices you sometimes and other times it lets you down?
Confused?
How does your danger meter and the Law of Attraction work together for your benefit?
What is the fine line between our natural defense mechanism and having fear?
These are some pretty serious questions, especially for the person endeavoring to find some smooth sailing waters in this rough sea adventure we call life.
Feelings are a great way to understand our Danger Meter (DM). But I have to warn you, to be able to trust your Danger Meter, may take some work on your part. You need to spend some time looking at what information has gone into your DM File. At first there may be a very thin line between the outcome you experience from information from your DM and whether it is for your advantage or disadvantage. Too often we don't know if we can trust our DM until we view the outcome. And in health matters, waiting for the outcome may be disastrous.
Our Danger Meter maybe giving us the wrong message. A message that actually brings undesired results. Most of us probably need to revamp our system before it is too late. Before we have had too many examples of living by the school of hard knocks.
Is your DM in serious trouble? Registering high at the wrong times and low if not working at other times. Are you having trouble trusting yourself with simple decisions because the information out there is always contradicting itself? Is there too much information about health that you just can't make a decision of what you believe. Is it easier for you to hand over your health choices to another human being because he or she has a title behind their name? Does the person you choose to make all your health decisions ever make a mistake? Do you find you always get the desired results when you visit your doctor? Is life and health a crap shoot for you?
Have you ever considered that life was meant to be healthy and joyful and long lasting? You probably have considered this and when you are in a love relationship it even feels this way.
But if it isn't second nature for you to wake up feeling great, trusting that you will have a wonderful day full of energy and vitality, you may need to revamp your system. You may need to go in for repair.
Look at the food industry today. All information seems to be ever changing. Today you can eat eggs, tomorrow they are bad for you. Eating fat makes you fat. You need fat to absorb calcium and vitamins and minerals. Eating beef builds healthy tissue. Eating beef causes cancer. Grains are healthy. Grains can make you fat. And so on and so on. Unfortunately all these studies seem to prove their point. Ever wonder about that?
Look at your choices for medical treatment:
Depending on whether you go the traditional medical route of pharmaceutical medicine or alternative medicine routes of food choices, supplements, etc the outcome of your health can still be in flux. How can you explain healthy individuals in either group or sick individuals in either group?
We are all individuals. We have all gathered information since the beginning of our physical existence.
Every bit of information comes with its own energy. Every bit of this energy surrounding the information can change according to how we feel about the information. Information on the same subject in you and me can produce a different emotion and thus a different outcome.
There are books on every subject known to man, and just as many opinions.
Maybe what you believe is only important to one person. YOU! What you believe and what emotion you tie to a subject is what becomes real for you. The question is: Does the belief/feeling you have about your food, medicine of choice, bring you the health and happiness you desire. Are you sick or healthy? Are you at peace or a nervous wreck? Do you enjoy your life or worry about everything? Do you have enough money or are you in constant worry about paying your bills? Do you have loving relationships?
Do you worry about your environment, do you trust the Universe for life to continue to evolve. Do you trust the system you live in or are you always on guard? Is your danger alarm always going off? Is your danger meter needle stuck on HIGH?
You need a break. You need to wipe the slate free of your fears and worries and phobias. You need to replace those negative belief systems with a system that serves you. A system that has a danger meter that can evaluate any circumstance and give you a truthful reading. A danger meter than isn't constantly on high alert.
I don't have a magic wand, nor am I going to brainwash you with 'my' information. I am going to share a tool with you that will establish for you once and for all what is right for you. How you can live the life you want. How you can trust yourself.
? ? First you need to understand your Danger Meter is tied into your emotions. If you are aware of exactly what you are feeling all the time, you are way ahead of the game. But if somehow you have emotionally become numb, you need to go in for repair. Your emotions are key to understanding what is right for you. Your emotions are your window to your beliefs and to the reasons your life is the way it is. Your default mode for your Danger Meter was set long ago. Most of the time in your day by day living your danger meter runs in its default mode. Unfortunately your default mode may not have your best interest at heart.
Don't be discouraged. You can repair even your default mode and set a new default mode for your danger meter. You can trust yourself again to know what decisions you should make for your life to be healthy, wealthy and wise. The truth according to the inner part of you. Your heart, your intuition. The part that has your best interest.
Without taking a poll from those individuals who have found their way into Energy Psychology, I would adventure to say that most who have taken EFT seriously have had a wonderful surprise in clarifying their DM. In the beginning as they tap tap tap their fearful emotions away they find they wipe their belief slate clean. When you tap on all the various emotions and fears that have kept you stuck on the emotional roller coaster, eventually you wake up one day finding yourself in this world that lacks chaos and doubt and worry. Without realizing the great impact that has taken place by addressing all those negative emotions by simply releasing them, you find that your danger meter is quiet. You wake up happy to start your day and excited about the possibilities. Your inherited beliefs and superstitions, one by one, have gone away. Now you can actually with a clear mind, choose how you want to look at the world. You can have your own opinion ,your own belief system. You are not pushed around by someone else's opinion, nor is the advertising on TV or bill boards having any negative effect on you. You feel like you just woke up and can smell the coffee...................Now I must admit all this transformation does not happen over night. It takes time. And sometimes you wonder about your sanity. Admit it. Who would think you can tap on certain body points and literally change how you view the world. This way of thinking is out side the box thinking. But that is what happens. One negative emotion at a time that has kept you stuck in a world of chaos. A world where your Danger Meter is in overload. A world where you are so afraid you have lost all perspective. A world full of danger. As you release those negative emotions and your world becomes calmer. You feel safe, and confident. You are actually healthier. Releasing the fears and negative emotions calm your body down and your health improves. Your body is designed to heal itself and when you start going with the flow of life, you give your body the opportunity to heal itself. Little by little, one negative emotion at a time being released and replaced with confidence and joy and gratitude and love. You become these things. Now if you need your Danger Meter for some particular reason, you see the warning clearly. But I would venture to say, by now you are moving with the flow of life so well, that any dangerous opportunities don't even exist for you. You are on this learning adventure, seeking joy and enlightenment and peace and fun.
This picture I have painted for you is a wonderful inspirational vision. One that calls your forth to take advantage of living those wonderful days that you have left on this planet in bliss and adventure. Well it is up to you. Your life is yours, mine is mine. We are all responsible for our own happiness and well being. . If you are a regular tapper then keep on tapping. If this information is new to you, then learn how to tap.
Use tapping for everything and anything you can think of. Experiment with it. Trust it. Trust yourself. Get to know the real you. Release the belief systems that don't serve you in a goal of happiness, health, wealth, love, joy, excitement. Feel how it feels to truly love yourself and all the others in your life.
This is the life you get! Create it and enjoy!
PART 7
The DOLLAR Sock!
Patrick was telling me one day that before he started tapping he had several traits in his personality that he just accepted. And not until he started tapping did he realize that his feelings/beliefs more or less grew up with him. That he hadn't realized his beliefs came from other peoples beliefs. That he really hadn't consciously chosen them.
This is how he told the story:
On my way home from work I stopped by my local retail store to pick up a few items. As the cashier rang up my purchases she handed me my change. In looking at my hand I realized she had included a dollar too much. Immediately I handed the dollar back to her, saying,"Here, you gave me too much money. I wouldn't want you to have to pay back the drawer at the end of your shift out of your own pocket."
A wide smile came across her face as she thanked me for catching her mistake.
In driving home I thought about what had happened. I realized that I had a good feeling about giving the cashier the overage back.. I certainly did not want to gain something at the expense of someone else. Even if it was only a dollar. Now this thought was profound enough that I gave it some more consideration.
I felt good about myself that I chose to not keep that dollar and to help that young lady in balancing her cash register drawer. Why would that feel significant to me? Well in the past I would have thought, yeah! I just got a free $. Other thoughts would, or could ,or have happened to me in the past like:
Too bad for you, not paying close attention...I just got a free $
You snooze you lose!
Your Loss is my gain!
Hmm! A windfall.
Well, when you have to pay that dollar back little girl, you'll pay more attention next time. Life is lessons you know! Blah, blah, blah!
Somewhere along the way I had become more balanced in my life. I have more equity. I truly do not want any circumstances in my life where I have gain and someone has loss. At least under circumstances that I have control. I realize that I have a new philosophy regarding life. I do not have a dog eat dog attitude in business or my personal life. I choose to look at life as a win/win point of view. I knew I had not always felt this way. I felt like I had to be competitive. Beat the other guy out in business. If someone made a mistake in business and I benefited, well all the better for me. It is just the cost of doing business. It wasn't that I particularly wanted someone else to suffer, but I had to look out for myself because no one else would.
I thought this an interesting story. I had actually moved in a similar direction myself with my thinking. Our community has fallen into a slump in the housing market in the last year. Several big companies came to south Florida and started building like crazy. Houses were going up in sub-divisions everywhere. If you drove along the coast or even inland there was a new development every mile or two in all of south Florida. All this building, a housing boom to meet the needs of the hundreds of thousands of retirees that were heading for life in the sun.
This of course made all the homeowners happy because the high prices of the new houses inched up the value of exiting homes (more like miled-up). The stock market had plunged some years earlier and more than a few investors turned to real estate. The $$$$ wave was taking a lot of people for a ride. They found a gold mine in their own yards. Their homes were worth twice, three times, quadruple what they paid a few years earlier.
Some refinanced and up graded their homes, some refinanced and used the money to buy investment property. Some used the excess equity to buy bigger and better homes. This excess money in their homes appeared like free money to them. My husband and I actually jumped on the band wagon. We refinanced our home and purchased our life long dream....we bought a sail boat! And because we got such a low low interest rate we looked at the money as a wind fall! As free money! Our house payment stayed the same and we got a boat! Or at least that was the plan. We shopped and shopped for the perfect boat. We took the plunge and actually bought the boat of our dreams. Time had gone by since we took out our equity so we made the decision to pay off all our bills and go ahead and finance the boat. With the low low interest rate we could buy a more expensive boat and still feel like we were ahead of the game, paying out less than we paid before and what a great boat!.....................I actually think it has taken us years to realize how delusional we really were. We were flying by the seat of our pants emotionally speaking. We were high on the thrill of the new boat and nothing else mattered, not even when the engine blew months later and we were faced with a $20,000 expense. Money we didn't have and we couldn't refinance.
My husband worked really hard to find a way to get the boat fixed. He studied engines and spent countless hours in research. Then 3 months later we had a new engine, installed by my husband with the thoughtful advice of several others along the way. I think he did the job for less than $4,000. So after a short delay from experiencing our dream, we were back up sailing. Which would have been a wonderful thing if we had any control at all over our lives. It was one thing after another. Three hurricanes and a huge northeaster. We rebuilt the boat twice. The boat always was in need of something. Unfortunately we had adopted a belief system that a boat was just a hole in the water to throw your money. The boat became a noose around our necks. The fun had long gone.
The windfall situation turned into a night mare. We hadn't thought through the huge mortgage we would now have to repay. We didn't foresee the huge insurance adjustment the insurance companies would make because of the hurricanes , and the raises in property taxes. Before we knew it we were over our heads in financial woes, and no fun with the (boat) dream gone bad.
The over building resulted in contractor after contractor going belly up.
All of a sudden the working class was out of work and business.
Company after company closed their doors. Families, not being able to afford the cost of living in south Florida were selling their homes to move to more affordable locations..
Some sold in time, others went into foreclosure, and still others stayed their ground to ride out the storm.
This is the story of life. Only you can choose to take charge of your life. Are you making serious decisions based on belief's you inherited from others?
Was it really a win for us to go deeper into debt? Add years to our mortgage? Where had our sound judgement gone? Did we ever have sound reasoning, or have we been manipulated by the thoughts and beliefs of others? Why had we abandoned our secure plan to pay off our home and be financially secure?
We turned out to be the looser. Our free money came with a hefty price.
These circumstances led me to ask very difficult questions. How did we end up in this situation? Why did we jump on the free money bandwagon?
How do I look in the mirror and love the person who stares back at me? How do I respect myself and respect others in my life? How do I live a win/win lifestyle?
It had become clear. To love and respect others would never happen until I loved and respected myself.
Life is meant to be a win/win situation. If there is a winner, a competition, there will always a looser.
So a simple dollar exchange became a real example of how life had changed for Patrick. He saw he was living a win/win type of life style on a simple level. He had replaced unsound thinking with sound thinking.
As we thought about this example we realized we had tapped away emotions tied to competition, We started seeing our business flourish. Why? because we see business as a win/win situation. We supply a great product to someone who has a desire that needs fulfilled and they in turn receive this great product and are willing to compensate us for it. We are a service oriented company and we want our clients to realize their dreams in using our service. Everything is a win/win. As we advance in our business and the money comes in, we make wise decisions about our goals and future. Things simply start to unfold the way we choose.
One little dollar, and an aha moment.
The next day Patrick and I were taking out the trash. He got the trash cart and I grabbed the recycle bin. I noticed a lonely sock on the ground in the exact location we place the trash cart., It looked new, but no mate. It was also turned wrong side out. Being the expert laundry technician that I am, I automatically turned the sock right side out. To my surprise, out popped a single dollar Bill. As Patrick approached I handed him the dollar and asked, "Is the Universe sending you a message?"
The Universe is always sending us messages. Learn to listen. It is not up to me or anyone else what message you get, nor what they mean. As I've said before it is all up to you.
PART 8
Derailed......................but not crashed!
I spent yesterday derailed. I had been going with the flow, my little engine that could was chugging right along, and then I fell off the track. It took me 24 hours to get back on track. My big and only clue was how I was feeling, confused, out of sorts, At least I knew enough to use the tool that quantum leaps me into a good feeling place. EFT Unfortunately I spent the day derailed and had I thought of it sooner, I could have done a tapping session and not wasted the day trying to paddle against the current, up stream, which is were what I truly want in my life is never located. Thankfully I have a routine at bed time. This limits the duration of the derailment. I can keep it at a max of a day.
Before I started using this little key, I could be derailed for days and weeks. Heck I think before I started tapping I had been in a permanent state of derailment for years.
I use an un-defined tapping session. This is what I mean by that ........since I have no clue what the problem is. If I feel out of sorts, derailed, confused, bored, lethargic ...really anything that isn't peace, thankfulness, happiness, ready to enjoy a great nights sleep at bed time......I always do a tapping session that states:
Even though I feel out of sorts and I don't have a clue what is going on, I deeply love and accept myself, and I choose whole thoughts and peace, and I ask my intuition to define what my tapping session should be, I choose to feel that aha moment of realization that always gets me back to going with the flow.
The other thing I do is tap at the SH...side of the hand...karate chop point and under my nose alternately. I say, even thogh I am reversed, I love and accept myself . I keep doing this until I feel a shift. This does the trick for me every time.
This session will always help me re-groove, get a good nights sleep and be pointed in the right direction when I wake up in the morning. Some times I will awake mid through the night from a dream or thought that is a clue to the tapping session. During the stillness of the night I can tap, or rehearse my affirmations, or sometimes, not wanting to allow my self to really wake up completely, I will reaffirm my desire for answers by saying or thinking this:
Even though I don't have the answers, I want the answers...3x
Then instead of tapping I THINK the tapping code in my head, for instance:
SH..............................................(SIDE OF HAND, I say that instead of karate chop, but you could do either)
E B..............................................EYE BROW
OE .............................................OUTER EYE
E..................................................EYE
UN..............................................UNDER NOSE
CH..............................................CHIN
C.................................................COLLAR BONE
A..................................................UNDER ARM
9-G..............................................GAMUT............................I just say this, I do not do the routine eye roll etc.
CROWN......................................TOP OF HEAD
( chakra points)..........................refer to reference attachments...........Chakras
FOREHEAD
CROWN
BACK OF HEAD
BACK OF THROAT
BACK OF HEART
CROWN
HALO
CROWN
FOREHEAD
CROWN
FOREHEAD
THROAT
HEART
SOLAR PLEXUS
PELVIS
TAILBONE
CROWN
TAILBONE
CROWN
CROWN..............................I say this 2nd list twice. If you have never thought the code before, you can tap it in the first time. Do it at an awake time. Once you have tapped in the code, you don't need to tap it in the next time, you can just think or say it. Your body remembers and you can get the same/better results just thinking it. There are times when it isn't to your advantage to tap, so this method works great. And especially at bed time, you want to be relaxed to go to sleep, or fall back to sleep. Usually I fall back to sleep sometime during the thinking of the Chakra points. I just drift right off. You may need to take some time in memorizing all the points so you can do it effortlessly. Soon they will be second nature.
I have used this method with my husband. If something wakes him up.
Once he woke up with his sinuses giving him a restless nights sleep.
I simply touched his arm and said..........even though I can't breath through my sinuses.....I want to...3x..
I spoke the session to him. He was breathing easy and sound asleep before I finished the 2nd Chakra list. His sinuses cleared and the stuffiness did not come back.
Since I have your attention regarding the Chakra points.
I will close my eyes at the end of a tapping session and cap it off by thinking or saying the standard Chakra points. I have found this has given me great peace in my heart,.......I feel it deep in my body.
It is sort of the finale of the session. When working with a client at some point I help them tap in the standard Chakra points, so when I am ready, they can relax and close their eyes while I say the points to them slowly and in an authoritative yet peaceful voice.
It is the after glow of the tapping climax. A win/win! Most of the time it is the clincher, that puts the bow on the finished product the tapping session packaged up
PART 9
EFT
When I decided to write this book, my motivation was to address stumbling blocks that kept me from getting the things in my life I truly wanted.
I watched The Secret. http://thesecret.TV/ and found that I was most interested in the health aspects of the film. The financial aspect didn't interest me, actually the LOTTERY signs in the film aggravated me, because I didn't think that was the plan to get rich from the Universe. I wasn't sure what the plan was, but I didn't think I was going to win the lottery nor was anyone else I knew. If it were that easy, we'd have a lot of lottery winners running around. I must have watched that film 50 times, and got most of my friends to watch it. The problem was, although the film was exciting to me, I kept missing the mark. I couldn't bring the reality of what I wanted to myself. I kept getting what I didn't want.
But I knew I did want HEALTH!
I watched it in July of 2006. The EFT Master, that addressed my panic attacks, passed the secret web site along to me. I had taken one session with her and she had been instrumental in collapsing a 25 year ongoing panic attacks. As I watched The Secret more often I came to the conclusion that I couldn't make things happen by my will, or positive affirmations, or anything else I could think.
I was one of those persons who at their first experiences with EFT had fantastic results. Then I never used tapping again for 5 months. I felt like it was a fantastic tool and it had given me great results, but I didn't feel like I knew enough to tap on myself. Although I would say "EFT really works, I just don't use it."
It may have been something I didn't use because it felt so foreign to me.
I had down loaded Gary Craig' free manual from his EFT web site. I still have not read it, nor have I listened to the basic course. Sorry Gary! I did exactly what he said not to do, and took it to the extreme. I read at the beginning of his work book that it was important to read the whole thing, and in order. This consequently stopped me in my tracks. I felt like I didn't know enough to tap. I felt like I didn't have the time to read the manual. So I did nothing. Am I a dope or what? . I respected it, and knew it worked. I JUST DIDN'T USE IT!
That is just too crazy. But I think it may happen more often than you'd think.
So 5 months later, from advice from a nutritionalist who had become a dear friend, I signed up for an EFT workshop. I already told you about this part of my story. I only could afford the first day of the level one workshop. So that is what I took. It gave me enough information to get started. I studied and studied the manual I received from the workshop ( not Gary's manual). And I began tapping. I tapped a minimum of two hours every morning. With a couple of sessions thrown in here and there and a few practice sessions on anyone I could hog tie. This is part of why I know EFT is one of the most important tools anyone could ever learn. A tool that can change your life, far beyond what you could ever dream.
I was not a professional, looking for another method to treat my clients/patients. I was a miserable human being that kept waking up every morning with burns on my skin and I couldn't escape myself. I wanted to be permanently done with life. But that never just happened to me. I kept waking up, day after day. I didn't have what it took to kill myself. I could never do that to my family. If there are degrees of doing 'bad' things, to end your life by your own hand, it is in my opinion, the worst thing you could ever do to your family! I love my family. I didn't want to be a burden. Simply slipping away seemed like the way to go.
When croaking didn't happen, I just kept looking for the answers. The EFT workshop was the first drop in the bucket in finding those answers.
Stumbling Blocks
I bet we all have more of these in common than we think.
Stumbling blocks in using EFT.
Stumbling blocks in understanding The Law of Attraction.
Stumbling blocks in trusting ourselves.
Stumbling blocks in dealing with financial security.
Stumbling blocks in our health.
Stumbling blocks in our relationships.
Stumbling blocks in our jobs.
And so on, and so on, and so on, like a beating of a drum. That signs, seals, and delivers everything in your life. Whether you want it or not.
Curious, that we even refer to the things we need to collapse in tapping sessions as blocks or blockages.
I have a different feeling (emotion) connected to the idea of blockages or blocking beliefs than I do to the idea of stumbling blocks. Maybe it is just me, but when I think of blockages or blocking beliefs, they are those pesky things that are obvious to me. Like fear, phobias., jealousy, envy, greed, illness and disease.
It makes sense to me that these emotions could be blocking me from receiving something I want. To feel safe, love myself and others, wishing and wanting the best for others, having my needs met, being content with what I have, having a healthy mind and body, having vitality in all that I choose to do.
These things are obvious to me. They define themselves.
But what about how I define God and how I choose to worship him?
Does the way I do that make me feel different about those who chose another way to worship?
How about the way I define health and choose to keep it or retrieve it if I have lost it.
What do I really think about prosperity.
Is it ok to be really wealthy, or do I have an opinion of what true wealth really is.
Do I have one opinion of a wealthy person and another opinion of some one who is indigent?
Do I judge wealth by dollars and cents, or by accomplishments,
or do I look at wealth from whether I feel loved or not.
How do I love? What are my guide posts?
I found too often the very things I thought I cherished, the belief systems that I had, were my stumbling blocks in receiving the health and piece of mind I truly wanted. They were not obvious to me. They were hidden in habit patterns and daily routines. How I felt about other human beings was determined by my 'religious' up bringing. The 'science' of life of what I was taught determined what was possible or not with my body and my health..
I spoke to a friend yesterday that relayed she had so much more peace of mind now that her husband had taken a job that gave them health insurance.
Wow! Have I had that belief system? Is my access to health tied into whether I have health insurance or not. If that is a factor for me, do I say or feel VULNERABLE if I am not covered? Can I feel safe not being COVERED. Does having health insurance magically keep me in a better place physically, financially, and mentally? Do I feel healthier being covered?
See what I mean by a stumbling block. An attitude could feel normal, depending on how it makes you feel at the moment. Say for instances you have health insurance. You just go with the flow of your life (which is always good) You know your bases are covered. If some little ailment comes up , you can just pay you co-pay and keep on truckin'. You don't even realize you have a big problem until one day, your husband loses his job and you don't have health insurance. Now you are faced with this nagging fear....what do I do if something happens! Or now that I don't have insurance, maybe something will happen. I have been lucky so far, but your luck can run out. Yikes! You wake up one day and realize your hidden belief may be a major stumbling block. And you didn't even know it..
You haven't set up a belief system that works for you under any circumstances.. One that is solid no matter what changes or what happens around you..........And most of us don't, until we are in the thick of it..
Now, don't put this book down, thinking you don't want to go down some road by the 'picture ' I just painted. The only reason for this exercise is to just get you to pay attention to what you really think. To be able to define what your belief system really is and one of the best ways is to see how you react in seeing the reversal of what it is that you think.
When I was first tapping with myself I pretty much stayed in a place of what is. But for me that was not a good place to be. What was ....was a nightmare. Living in the past didn't help me, focusing on the future didn't help me either. But my current situation wasn't good. Not really knowing how to change my current events, I knew I could do one tapping session at a time that, little, by little, made a difference. Those tapping sessions that released the not feeling good emotions tied to my reality gave me relief. Soon my relief lasted long and longer. For me the major skin problems that I had, started to improve. I actually started sleeping better. Had hours at a time that I was not in pain. Those hours turned into days. And weeks.
The emotions that popped into my head that were caused by hidden belief systems were just another tapping session. Soon I started to see those belief systems as stumbling blocks, keeping me from the long range health that I wanted. I realized the metaphor that I had for my self was a rotting piece of fruit...not one of my better realizations, but it was a tapping session that catapulted me into a better place mentally and physically that felt much better than any other emotional state I had experienced.
I stayed in a sort of numb state for while after these tapping sessions. But numb was a good place for me. Not knowing what metaphor I really had for myself, glad to be free of the last one, but not much vision for a new one. My I AM affirmations helped me keep moving in a good direction. I was able to hold the vibrations of the good thoughts longer and longer, but it would be awhile before I moved into the solid place I am today. I don't get bucked off the bucking bronco and trampled any more.
Maybe by the last chapter of this book, I will tell you of the new metaphor I have for myself. And you can be the judge. lol...if I were to believe in judgement.
What metaphor do you have for your self?
Do you feel safe?
Is you metaphor a castle with a mote, so you can protect yourself, see danger coming.
Do you enjoy life and have a metaphor like a garden or a meadow?
Are you locked in a prison?......and ready to find it was never locked, or the key was in your pocket.
The more you tap on every negative emotion or physical infirmity that you have, the closer , and closer, you will move towards the life you want. Even if you don't have much vision for yourself yet, you will start seeing little, by little, more clarity.
You WILL have quantum leaps!
You WILL get derailed! That is just so what?
............ At some point your little track will become a monorail. And you won't get derailed.
To quote from the teachings of Abraham. We are a work in progress. You can't get it done! You can't get it wrong!. And the reason you can't get it wrong, is because you are a work in progress and you aren't done.
There is a difference between not getting it wrong............and..................being right.
I can always change my mind as I see life clearer and feel more love, and have more patience with myself and love you.
PART 10
Emotional Freedom
There are a lot of implications in those two words
The bottom line is, there is NO bottom line. What emotional freedom is for me is different from what it is for you. Depending on what desires for your future you hold or dreams you have for yourself and your life, your goals and aspirations, we are all different. Emotional Freedom means something different for each of us. Although if you are reading this book, we may have a lot more in common about our dreams and desires than someone else.
What information has been hard wired into your brain and how much you choose to live outside the reality of your stored information will influence whether you ever define for yourself what you truly want in life.
You may lack the ability to see outside your reality, to define your personal hard wired beliefs, to see the possibilities. For some there is no realization outside the reality of what they have accepted as truth.
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Freedom implies lack of boundaries. However you personally define the word will determine how much freedom you lack or enjoy. What emotions come with your definition?
One person may feel safe having boundaries, like a child playing in his gated back yard. He isn't free to move outside his boundaries, but has chosen to obey his mother and does not go outside the fence, so he feels safe. His mother feels safe, knowing her child is protected from the street and its activities. Mother and child go about their activities. They have emotional freedom, inside the boundaries that have been chosen.
The mother across the street however has a different set of boundaries. She has seen the news of 911 and heard about so and so who was kidnapped, and the child who broke his arm playing on the swing set, and knows you can never be too careful. She has had time to digest the information and it has become hard wired into her brain. Her day has started off just like her neighbors. She wants her child to enjoy his day, but feels constrained to sit in the back yard to watch over him. Although she enjoys a fence like her neighbor. Her boundaries are more defined than her neighbors. She lacks the freedom her neighbor enjoys. She may also realize her fears more often than her neighbor. Her child may actually get hurt more often than she likes. This just reinforces her belief she needs to watch over her child more.
And still another neighbor sips her coffee while reading her favorite book, while her child plays in the front yard, skipping along the side walk, knocking on neighbors doors to see if other children can join him in tag or some other playful sport.
Each of these mothers have defined the boundaries with which they feel comfortable. As long as they stay within their boundaries they may even feel emotionally safe and secure. They could define their space as emotional freedom. Although one may have an opinion about her other neighbors and the choices they have made. She may feel her neighbor takes foolish chances with the safety of her child. While another feels sorry that her neighbor is in so much fear of her child' safety. And another may wish she had more free time to enjoy what she would like to do. She doesn't have time to take care of her needs or responsibilities because so much time is given to keep watch.
No matter how we define freedom, we live in our definition.
Each child in these scenarios also has their freedom defined for themselves, although they 'inherited' there freedom definitions and will live in those confined definitions until one day they choose to make new ones. Possibly when they are adults.
What definitions are truly yours, and what have you inherited?
You may say I have looked at my definition of freedom and I have decided that I don't like what I have defined and found myself living. How do I break free of the boundaries I have defined for myself?
How do I enjoy being released from emotions that keep me stuck. Emotions of fear and anxiety, worry and uncertainty in my daily life. How do I feel safe and still be what I think is a responsible adult. I want to be carefree yet I do not want to be careless.
An addict type of personality could have an entirely different perspective of freedom than another personality type. Different perspectives and different opinions from being the boss or employee. Someone who works a forty + hour week and the trust fund baby. The husband or the wife perspective even in the same family. The teacher, preacher, student, church member, etc.
So many belief systems are formulated in us by others, even before we were 6 years old. The average person will continue those pre-wired in belief systems into adult hood and a lot of them never really decide what it is they want to believe. Because if you just make decisions based off of what is hard wired in....you will keep the same system, someone else chose for you and never live outside your (I have to feel the same ) box.
We as adults, if we choose to look back over the generations before us, could see the parallels of belief systems ingrained in our families.. Until we have a reason to question why we believe as we do and determine if those beliefs compliment or contradict our hopes and dreams. We will always stay the same. For those hard wired beliefs keep us stuck, until we choose to break out and move in the direction of our choosing.
When I say hard wired in, I mean there is a process by which our brain takes information and stores it. When a thought has been pondered upon and repeated over and over, that is how a belief becomes a significant part of your decision making. Little electric shocks happen and memories are created in your brain.. To understand this more fully buy a copy of ' WHAT THE BLEEP DO WE KNOW, DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE' on DVD.
When your mother repeats over and over and over the way for you to live and act, those feelings from your mother become your own. And by the time you are an adult you feel the way you do because of those instances. As you realize one day that you actually can choose for your self, you will inventory the beliefs you have from your parents, teachers, family members and decide which you throw out and what you keep the same. Some of those things that made you crazy that your loved ones instilled in you, may have already been uprooted as you realized they made no sense or you chose to not pass those feeling onto your own children so you figured out how to ditch them long ago. Unfortunately, if you do not have a tool that is designed to uproot those old belief systems, what it takes to change the reasons for keeping your life the same, It may be really hard and next to impossible. How do you over come those fears and anxieties? How do you learn to play feeling free to express your true self and live without the consequences of your fears? How do you find out what is deep seated in your sub-conscious. Those beliefs that keep you doing the same things over and over, and you don't know why. The spouse that is abusive, the one too many drinks, the over whelming desire to shop, shop, shop, over eating, anxiety, phobias, headaches, back pain, skin problems, heat attacks, on and on and on, beating the same old drum over and over and over.
All you have to do is:
Start here!
Define what freedom means to you.
Make a list of the things you do not want in your life that are already present. Choose the opposite.
Learn how and become proficient in EFT and QT.
Start were you are at today. You do not need to become anything, or arrive at any point, to start. Now is all you need. Study this and other web sites.
Find other like minded friends. Make a choice now to start living.
Do a tapping session on development of your intuition.
Ask for a light at the end of the tunnel and keep moving in the direction of wholeness and wellness. Asking is such a wonderful tool. Remember if you have not, it is because you asked not. Yes that is a belief system. One that serves us all. Don't be afraid to ask for what ever you want. Do it in your tapping sessions. If you are sick, ask your body to release toxins: heal at the cell level: calm down if you are up tight. You are in charge of your body. The King of the kingdom. Unfortunately you may have not been living an in charge roll. You may have been living in default and not realized that you could be in charge of your health and happiness. If so, take charge now. If you have those pesky know it all voices popping up in your head, just tell them you are moving in a direction of health and wholeness, that you can be in charge because you can be trusted to make wise decisions. Your body will respond with accommodations. After all, we all want somebody in charge that we can trust. Tap all parts of you into the common goal. Your body will love you for it.
As you do your sessions with the goals you have in mind, you will automatically release the blockages, stumbling blocks, belief systems that have kept you stuck. You will start seeing the things you know you don't believe in any longer fade away.. As you release those you wipe your belief slate clean. Now you are free to choose what you prefer to believe. What makes you feel good to believe it. You will be living out side the box of your old precepts.
My desire and heart for you is success in all your endeavors.
Feel free to contact me, I would love to hear from you, especially with all those fantastic stories that I know will happen to you.
And by the way, I promised you that I would share with you my new metaphor regarding myself..
I see myself as a heart like a rose, opening in full bloom.
Thank you so much in allowing me to share.
Jo Ann
A Workbook for a successful EFT experience!
by JoAnn Johnson
This work book is intended for those who already use EFT as a tool for healing and health management. It is not a step by step How to Book. Research Gary Craig's EFT web site for that information. This work book addresses those stumbling blocks that keep us from living the life we have always wanted, defining what it is that will make us happy and releasing the blockages. It is a work book for those who desire the active roll of creating their own lives.
printable workbook HERE
I have had some really fantastic responses to my work book so thankyou from my blooming rose heart. So upon request I am posting my latest blog.. This blog is also posted in the first page of the Law of Attraction link on my home page, or just click on encore.
Thanks again.......................Jo Ann
